How do you want to “show up” at work?
Our behavioral patterns have huge implications for our overall career success. Many of us consciously or unconsciously exhibit habits that can impede our judgement, productivity, collaboration or enjoyment in the work environment.
Learn how to overcome self-limiting behaviors
In this course you’ll discover and prioritize self-development opportunities. You’ll learn and apply methods to create positive shifts that overcome self-limiting behaviors. In addition to beginning to shift one of their own self-limiting behaviors, past participants report, as outcomes of this course, improvements in focus, emotional intelligence, interpersonal relationships, decision making, satisfaction and success.
Self-Assessment Exercise: Self-Limiting Behaviors
Where Do You Get In Your Own Way?
A key focus of Coach Your Self Up is to help you identify and begin making shifts to one of your own Self-Limiting Behaviors. You will learn a repeatable process such that you can circle back and work on other Self-Limiting Behaviors at any time.
If you aspire to reach your fullest potential, it will serve you to make these positive shifts. How you “show up” at work has huge implications for your overall career success.
Listed below are several common self-limiting behaviors. Review the list and reflect on where you see yourself in one or more of the items.
Imagine how powerful it would be if you could make a sustainable positive shift in the following two key areas. Simply click on either of the examples below.
➤ The first set of examples below pertain to any individual at any organizational level.
➤ The second set of examples pertain to managers and leaders.
- I frequently interrupt others when they’re speaking.
- I don’t listen to others when they’re speaking.
- I succumb too easily to distractions (emails, text messages, etc.) during group meetings.
- I succumb too easily to distractions (emails, text messages, etc.) during 1:1 conversations.
- I’m unable to say “no” (when it’s a viable and reasonable option).
- I talk too much in meetings (i.e., I “take up too much space”).
- I don’t speak up in meetings (even when something needs to be said).
- I speak too softly.
- I solicit the input of others with no intention of changing my position.
- I take credit for the work of others.
- I blame others when things go wrong.
- I talk about others behind their backs.
- I react too negatively / emotionally when issues arise.
- I get frustrated too easily / often.
- I complain a lot.
- I’m unable / lack confidence to make decisions.
- I’m condescending and/or dismissive of others.
- I frequently “bully” others until they acknowledge that I am right.
- I am consistently late.
- I don’t solicit advice or help from others when it would help me to do so.
- I don’t set clear expectations for one of more of my direct reports.
- I don’t conduct regular 1-on-1 meetings with one or more of my direct reports.
- I frequently cancel 1-on-1 meetings with one or more of my direct reports.
- I hold on to tasks/projects that could be effectively delegated.
- I stay overly involved in the business of one or more of my direct reports (micro-managing).
- I avoid discussing performance concerns with one or more of my direct reports.
- I don’t provide ongoing feedback (positive and constructive) to one or more of my direct reports.
- I discuss/raise/highlight performance concerns about one or more of my direct reports in a public setting.
- I speak negatively or gossip about my boss or any other employees with one or more of my direct reports.
- I hold on to strong performers when it would be in their best interest to move to another group or role.
- I make decisions without soliciting appropriate team-member input.
- I make promises/commitments I know my team can’t deliver.
- I don’t challenge superiors even when I believe I have an important POV to share.
- I don’t stand firm when the situation calls for it.
The above are just some of the aspects you can expect to improve with Coach Your Self Up.
What to Expect
Coach Your Self Up is a development program that provides participants with the approach, techniques, and skills to coach themselves to heightened levels of success at work, and in all aspects of their lives.
Unlocking Potential Through the Self-Coaching Path
Coach Your Self Up is a 7-week, instructor-led, online course and peer support experience. With between 60-90 minutes of instruction and practice per week, each module allows for personal reflection, interaction and discussion. There will be two additional 1-hour live online interactive events during the course.
Participants complete hands-on learning practices to begin shifting one of their personally selected self-limiting behaviors that is blocking some aspect of their success.
You’ll engage in on-demand lecture content and exercises on your own time. Plus, the learning experience will be enhanced by online Q&A and interaction with a live instructor and your fellow participants.
Exercises provide cohort participants opportunities to practice new principles together before taking them back to the workplace. Study partners also hold each other accountable for integrating new practices into their lives.
“The CYSU course was terrific and extremely transformational for me. I highly
encourage this course to anyone who is looking to become more self-aware and learn how to overcome any self-limiting behaviors.” ~ Ben E, Sales Team Lead
➤ Shifts in one of your own Self-Limiting Behaviors (SLBs):
You will begin to apply self-coaching techniques to one of your own selected self-limiting behaviors. This brings the concepts and techniques to life via practical hands-on application.
➤ Improved Attention Management:
Utilizing increased control over your attention, you will cultivate the ability to focus it when needed and, maybe more importantly, to notice when it has “wandered off” and needs to be “brought back.”
➤ Increased Emotional Intelligence (Self-Awareness and Empathy):
By paying more focused attention to yourself, your self-awareness will expand. As you become more self-aware of your behaviors, stories, and feelings, your empathy for the perspectives and feelings of others is also likely to increase. As you practice self-compassion, it is probable that you will become more compassionate with others as well.
➤ Enhanced Interpersonal Relationships:
Seeing how your stories can negatively impact relationships, you will be able to develop and manage relationships more objectively.
➤ Better Decisions:
Learning to make conscious/aware decisions in the moment and not succumb to habitual/reflexive responses. Note the old adage that, “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond.”
➤ Improved ability to coach others:
Applying some of the self-coaching skills and techniques to coaching others around you.
➤ Improved ability to be coached:
When others are coaching you in the future, you are likely to be more open and receptive to the process, enabling you to make progress more quickly.
“We are positioning CYSU as an innovative foundational component of our approach to Career Development. What could be more helpful to any employee than learning to see where their behaviors are getting in their way and giving them tools to address that?” ~ Rich Jacquet, CHRO, Gigamon
Self-Awareness is Key
The focus is on three areas: our attention (or lack thereof), our self-limiting behaviors, and the stories we tell ourselves that shape our experiences.
Psychology & Science
The methods are built upon strong foundations of psychology, neuroscience (most notably our brain’s malleability), and behavioral science.
Powerful in its Simplicity
A simple three-step framework called ‘The Self-Coaching Path’ can be utilized by participants for the rest of their lives.
The course covers twelve modules within seven weeks of instruction.
Module 1: Laying the Foundation
1.1 Personal Development is Career Development
1.2 Your Most Important Coach – You
1.3 Self-Awareness – Turning on the Light
1.4 Target Outcomes – Tools for Creating Positive Shifts
1.5 The Underlying Science
1.7 Small Shifts Lead to Big Changes
1.8 Using Our Minds to Change Our Brains – Neuroplasticity
1.9 Cultivating a Growth Mindset
1.10 On the Self-Coaching Path
Module 2: Managing Attention – A Superpower for Life
2.1 Benefits of Managing Attention + Superpower Defined
2.2 Challenges to Paying Attention
2.3 Following Your Attention
2.4 The Geography of Attention
2.5 Labeling Where Your Attention Lands
2.6 Intentionally Moving Your Attention Around
2.7 Focusing Attention on Your Body
2.8 Focusing Attention on the World (Listening)
Module 3: Learning Practices
3.2 Strengthening Attention – Five Minutes Per Day
3.3 Attending to Three Specific Experiences
3.4 Accountability Team Meeting
Module 4: Self-Limiting Behaviors
4.1 “Being Here” Activity
4.2 Learning Practices
4.3 Self-Limiting Behaviors
4.4 Selection Criteria: Prioritizing Self-Limiting Behaviors
4.5 The Johari Window
4.6 Choosing One Self Limiting Behavior to Work On
Module 5: The Stories We Tell Ourselves
5.1 The Concept of Stories
5.2 The Ladder of Inference
5.3 More About Stories
Module 6: Learning Practices
6.2 Strengthening Attention in Five Minutes Per Day
6.3 Documenting Your Behavior Change Goal
6.4 Cultivating Self-Observation Skills
Module 7: Speed Laddering and More
7.1 “Being Here” Activity
7.2 Learning Practices
7.3 Speed Laddering Activity
7.4 So You Have a New Manager Activity
Module 8: Challenging Our Stories
8.1 Self-Talk – The Power of Using Your Given Name
8.2 Good Challenging Questions
8.3 Tying Back to the Ladder of Inference
Module 9: Deep Stories
9.1 Introduction to Deep Stories
9.2 Some of Your Own Deep Stories
9.3 Your Thoughts About Deep Stories
9.4 Tying Back to the Self-Coaching Path
9.5 Typical Evolution of Shifting a Self-Limiting Behavior
Module 10: Learning Practices
10.2 Additional Information on Triggers
10.3 Additional Information on Identifying & Challenging Stories
10.4 Self-Observing Your SLB, Stories, Feelings & Triggers
10.5 Self-Observing and Challenging Stories
Module 11: Challenging Deep Stories
11.1 “Being Here” Activity
11.2 Learning Practices
11.3 Differences in Using the Five Challenging Questions
11.4 Challenging Deep Stories – A Personal Example
11.5 Additional Resources for Challenging Deep Stories
Module 12: Maintaining Momentum & Moving Forward
12.2 Single Tasking is the new Multi-Tasking
12.3 Maintaining Momentum
12.4 Mental Rehearsal
12.5 Program Wrap-Up
12.6 Key Takeaways & Next Steps
While advancing to management on an engineering career path, Mike discovered a passion for his own personal growth journey and that of others. He became a Learning & Development professional and ran the global L&D function at eBay for five years and then at ServiceSource for another five years.
After a 25-year corporate career, Mike launched his own executive coaching and leadership training company, The Unlimit Group, in 2012. He led the first Coach Your Self Up program in 2014. He published a book by the same title in 2018. Teaching and coaching on this subject matter is much more than a business to Mike, it’s very much the realization of his true passion.
Mike is also an active member of the executive coaching cadres at Skyline Group International, Lee Hecht Harrison, and Sidekick.
Mike earned his coaching certification from The Hudson Institute of Coaching, and he is a graduate of the University of Notre Dame with a BS in Electrical Engineering.
Learn more about Mike and The Unlimit Group at CoachYourSelfup.com
Frequently Asked Questions
Will the live conference calls be recorded?
All course live events will be recorded. You may watch the video or listen to an audio recording of the calls online at your convenience.
Will I have access to the course after it has ended?
Yes, you will have two weeks following the course completion date to review all content, take notes, engage with your classmates in the forum, and download handouts and audio files that you may have missed.
What if I’m new to online learning?
Our helpdesk team will be here to help walk you through the classroom and assist you with any technical questions you may have. You will be comfortable with the classroom in no time.
I have a busy schedule, what if I fall behind?
This course has been crafted with active schedules in mind. The self-led portion is available 24/7 for you to access at your own pace and schedule within the course presentation timeframe
How much time does the course take each week?
We estimate that it takes approximately 60-90 minute a week to participate fully in the course. There will be an additional two 60-90 minute live class conference sessions.
Will I have direct access to the faculty?
Yes. At multiple intervals during the course, there is a live conference call and you are invited to participate in the Q&A/discussion period. Additionally, the faculty will participate in forum and chat conversations with you and your fellow classmates.
Will I have interaction opportunities with fellow participants?
Yes. Course participants are encouraged to comment on each other’s postings in an online forum, and it’s recommended to practice the methods taught with study partners. Online messaging tools enable private and group communications between faculty and participants.
Participants are also encouraged to identify two other participants to form a small accountability team to increase success in applying the self-coaching techniques.
Can I earn Continuing Education Units?
This course does not offer a continuing education credit option at this time.
2 Live Calls
12.5 hrs Est. Course-time
38 On-Demand Video
2 Live Faculty Sessions
Extra Articles & Resources
Peer Accountability Groups
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