What does it Mean to Resonate with Others?
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WHY GOOD VIBRATIONS ARE MORE THAN A BEACH BOYS’ SONG
- You walk into a room and instantly sense anger; people have been arguing in here.
- You voice an opinion in a meeting and sense your words aren’t landing, which is all the more confirmed as the conversation ensues independent of anything you said.
- You make a presentation and you can just feel your audience is with you; by the end, you’ve positively nailed it.
In these and countless more cases, you’re sensing an energetic quality we’ve long had an intuition for and now have a better scientific handle on, namely, the resonance of relationships. It’s not a stretch to say that the quality of our life and the impact of our work depend on the quality and impact of our relationships.
We are born in relationship and only survive through relationships, So it’s not surprising that our nervous system has evolved into social circuitry and the ability to sense the relationships of our life for safety or danger. Even though what we sense in relationships may include material forms – e.g., hormones, facial expressions, body language – the way we sense it and make sense of it is through the uptake, relay, and re-formation of energetic signals, i.e., through resonance. To resonate is to vibrate with, and we are in constant vibration with people and situations around us. Even to say “around us” is a bit of a misnomer, as we are far from contained by our skin. More accurately, we are interpenetrating energetic fields in a sea of energy with which we, to varying extents, co-create and add up or interfere and garble up.
The emotions that accompany these differing states of resonance are unmistakable, just as you likely felt different emotions reading the three vignettes at the beginning. A pretty good gauge of good vibrations – that is, when relationships click, when we’re harmonizing or are in the flow – is that it feels good. Good vibrations with the people and situations in our lives increase both our effectiveness and joy. We are able to harmonize more than interfere, add up more than garble up, when we ourselves are more attuned and coherent. While resonance is a fact, how we resonate is where we have choice.
It’s a choice that takes on new possibilities in Resonate, through practices that integrate mind and body, tune the senses, and tame the fears of the ego. As you become a more resonant being, you’re better able to make your difference and affect more people in a positive way. Given the turbulent, difficult year we’ve been through, what better time, through the goodness we both feel and create, to bring our best vibrations into the world!
Ginny Whitelaw, Author & CEO, Institute for Zen Leadership
A biophysicist and former senior manager for integrating NASA’s International Space Station, Dr. Whitelaw has trained leaders on the path of making a difference for more than 25 years, working with mind, body, energy and resonance through the Institute for Zen Leadership.
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